If you’re someone who’s stubborn, inflexible and a...

If you’re someone who’s stubborn, inflexible and a control freak, loving somebody is going to teach you to put someone else’s needs before yours. Do you want to have your usual coffee at the same place with your newspaper, or do you want somebody to love you? Okay, that might be a tad dramatic but the message is applicable. Your struggle is going to be about letting someone screw up your routine and not resenting them for it. This person should be worth being uncomfortable for. This person is worth letting go of some things that ultimately don’t matter.

If you’re someone who throws themselves into relationships and perhaps gives too much, you need to establish boundaries early on so you don’t become the selfless one. Ideally, this person you love wouldn’t put you in this position but again, the emphasis is on the word ideally. People aren’t perfect. We reinforce vicious cycles without even realizing it sometimes.

Loving someone is a balancing act. There’s you. There’s them. Mix and stir and pray the recipe doesn’t turn out crappy. If the person you’re with is really worth loving, you’re going to realize that they don’t want you to change. They just want you to be best version of yourself. That’s what it’s all about.

— “How to Love Somebody” by Ryan O’Connell (via indescribably)

(Source: thoughtcatalog.com, via indescribably)

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Posted On: Fri, Feb. 24, 2012